It is possible to be both, or traits of both, or even have a 3rd PD depending on how many "false selves" one person has. There are good psychiatrists out there, not many but a few. Same with Therapists, they are hard to come by. Which I find is also true of the general population, its mostly a-holes. I don't have NPD because I've been in treatment on and off since a very young age. Like my about me says "As soon as my life began, it started sucking." Originally I was put in child therapy in a manipulative way by my mother during her divorce with my father. They were always fighting over custody, I was the "monkey" in the middle. If the therapist didn't tell my mother to, she would have never hugged me, she didn't breast feed and they always had me off in some day care wondering if they would ever come pick me back up or abandon me there.

Then the school recommended therapy because I was throwing temper tantrums and threw a desk at the teacher. That's when they first diagnosed me with Depression, then ADHD, then OCD which went away when I stopped the two stimulants they prescribed me. They over-medicated the depression and ADHD and created the OCD. My codependent mother only left her abusive step husband after he tried to kill me and was caught in the act. Because after she tried to calm him down he turned his aggression towards her and threw her threw my bedroom window. The third time I was recommended therapy it was court ordered because I caught my second case and they brought up my school history in court. It was for "anger management" plus "drug counseling" and I learned some skills there, interpersonal skills and anger control techniques. But I rarely used the anger control techniques, instead I used the interpersonal skills the most, the drug counseling was a joke, I lied the whole way through and got stoned again as soon as they let me off the hook.

My mother always called me a narcissist and I found it very hurtful and damaging, it was nothing more than her projecting her own narcissistic behavior. The more I research it the more I can see how she is a failed narcissist turned codependent and my father is a stingy narcissist. I didn't know the stepfather very well, all I can remember about him is his persistent and relentless abuse towards me. And that he seemed to have 3 personalities and only one of them was not violent. I used to fantasize about murdering him all the time, attempted to kill him once (drunk), killed him in several dreams, as well as my mother who watched him abuse me several times and did nothing about it. Still to this day tries to justify it by saying I deserved the beatings, the things he would say about me destroyed my ego and self-esteem. Apparently he was trying to compete with me for my mothers limited affection. He was probably a narcissist to and just used my mother as a source of narcissistic supply. Its no wonder I keep finding narcissist women in life, they say our mates will usually tend to resemble our parents.