Thank you payne1. It's too funny that you say that I came along when she was annoyed with her parents - as it has long been my theory that she was annoyed with her sister who lived across the road to her with her boyfriend and only let my wife in her life when her bf was away on business etc and my wife used to feel bad. I also think that as her parents get feeble, she will be gone no matter what and that is a risk too much for me. The problem with counselling is that she has to come back to the UK for that and it would be hard to go through all this again, last year when she left I made myself sick and got a blood clot and this year I got BP and am on blood pressure meds. I can live without her maybe, but would find it hard her leaving again like she has come accustom to.

Any opinions?