without knowing waht you are doing to try and meet women it's hard to really give a good answer to "what you're doing wrong". I mean, sure it can "happen' like people say but not without your doing something, being in the right place and really putting yourself out there. I don't mean to pimp yourself out and make a fool of yourself trying to pick up girls, I don't think that's effective at all. What I do mean is, do you interact with the ones you find attractive, at least on a level to get to know them and such? People tell you it will happen, but it's not like some magical thing that just "poofs" and voila you're there with some girl that is your lady.

I say this not without thought, because I am hoping to eventually find someone again too and the truth is sometimes I get frustrated because I too am having trouble but.. I can trace it to the fact that I'm not out there, I don't meet women, interact with them on a regular basis or anything. The ladies just don't even know that I'm available, so maybe that's the thing, maybe they don't even realize that you're a "single and looking" person.