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Old Sep 16, 2013, 05:04 PM
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Are you seeing a therapist right now?

You say you live in India I am wondering if you are Indian and may have different customs that may make "telling" harder on "you". The "most" important person in this picture is "you" and "what is best for you".

Often when someone chooses to finally talk about the abuse they suffered, she doesn't get the kind of response that is "helpful" to her. As with anything "bad" people often respond with "disbelief" at first. Depending on the people you tell, sometimes they will "not accept" it and can be dismissive or want you to not talk about it. Often people "prefer" to believe that their father/spouse was a good person and in good standing and they will not allow themselves to think differently. Sometime the "victim" gets blamed for what happened too.

You should be able to talk about it, but it really depends on what kind of people and customs they have in a situation like this. Always remember, the most important person who needs to feel "safe" is "you" and the only thing that would benefit you by "telling" is if you would get support and care and comfort.

Sorry that you experienced that.
((Caring Hugs)))
OE
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