I only have a problem with self-harm if something triggers it. Usually, it's quite easy to avoid these triggers (i.e. don't get myself rejected). If I avoid the easily avoidable triggers then it's not a problem.

Besides, why should the girl do all the work asking people out? I thought guys general preferred to be the pursuer at least a good portion of the time. But they're too scared to approach me for anything other than friendly conversation every once in a while. They don't actually want to get to know me. They don't even want to be my friend. I have more in common with guys than I do girls. I never really fit in with a lot of girls my age either.

So if I'm apparently too horrible to hang out with even as friends with guys, then what chance do I have with one of them wanting to date me?