I hope u get better soon. Your father should not push u to get a job until u and your doc feel your ready. As a parent I can tell you what I think is going on since they already been thru the mill with your brother, they are in complete denial there is any thing seriously wrong with you. This is their coping mechanism and it is not right or healthy for any one. But it's not that you are a burden or they don't care about you. They are terrified inside and won't admit it to anyone including themselves. When you saw your father keep leaving the room in ER, it was in too much pain could not stand facing the reality o it all. I am not making excuses for them, I just want u to see why they are the way they are. They need to accept reality. I hope they do for everyone's sake.