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Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung
Bonnie, Thanks. I will absolutely say that what you said is condescending, rude, hugely unhelpful, barely even relative to my original post, and I expected better from someone on a supportive, understanding site like this. Nowadays I don't usually bother replying online with how I really feel, but what you said hit a nerve. As it so happens, my presumptuous poster, I have been in the process of sorting various things out, which, if you had read my post properly, you'd have realised. I'm so very pleased that your life is wonderful, and I'm sure it took a tremendous amount of effort to get to that amazing state of well-being, but that is your life, not everyone else's, so kindly consider this in the future, lest you hurt someone more vulnerable than I.
AceHaven, thank you for your reply; it made me feel a bit less like crap.
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I'm sorry you took it so badly.
Yesterday I was as tired as can be, so I did not add more. I had an idea that you might take it badly, but not THAT bad.
I didn't mean to say i'm up and you're down. Nowhere in my post i said that.
What I read in your post is something in the nature of: I'd love to but I can't. Better, some parts of you would love to (have relationships, babies etc) while other parts can't or won't have none of them.
It might have been my fatigue, but your post didn't have the taste of "I'm working on it" to me. I read more of a snapshot of what you feel inside of you right now and you just asked if other people can relate to this. Yet you feel crappy, because that's what you wrote first.
I can relate to healingme4me remark: "how much more must I work on myself"? Sometimes it seems like an endless road. I know it's hard. But when I looked back I never wanted to be one step back, that's what moved me forward.
Again I'm sorry if my post made you feel bad: I never write to make people feel bad.
But after observing, thinking, rethinking and whatever we need to do, the most important thing I have learned in my life is to say to myself: "ok. so what am I going to do now?"
Whenever I could describe all my feelings yet remain in their observation it will only made me feel worse. Shrugging the bad feelings off with some action, with some plan in my mind on how I can make my road easier, how I can make myself feel better made all the difference to me.
That's what I tried to condensate in 4 lines.
Does it still sound so terrible and snobbish?