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Old Dec 26, 2006, 01:20 PM
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Little bit at a time, ever "better" or in the better direction?

I just told my husband this morning I didn't want our daily breakfasts anymore (we just retired this year and he makes big breakfasts every morning) except Sunday. I'm still going to eat :-) but switch to fruit and cereal and not as much (normally I still eat the fruit throughtout the day anyway but I hardly need a banana with my coffee, followed by a two-egg, ham, cheese sandwich!)

When I'm disappointed in myself I switch to treating it like an experiment and see what went wrong with the last "try" and what I can adjust or try differently and then move on to the next try. That took me the longest to understand (and I'm still forgetful a lot now); that things don't go from decision to done in one try, but are a series of ever better attempts and learnings. You don't start kindergarten and then graduate high school the next day.
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