Yes, they do seem put off, for trying to make the first move, this does happen in this world! Not all, but many! That's what I meant about an ego thing.

Is it because you are intimidating, due to intelligence?! I've been told, I can be intimidating to talk to, because of my intelligence. That, does happen. (ego, again, hun)

I'm sure, it's not the skinny thing. Been on both sides of the coin. One need not dress provocatively to get attention. It's exuding confidence, that get's one noticed.

I didn't realize how much attention I could receive from men, until in my thirties. I've been referred to as a neck breaker now, by some really intelligent men, too. I dress conservatively, if that puts it into perspective.