I have MS, so I can appreciate your Fibro, on a level most wouldn't understand about the two illnesses. The fatigue is about one in the same

I just woke up, and thought about you and these little og connections, he professes of his past. Did the two of you, ever grow up in the same community? Because, sometimes, it's not as important to have been there done that, in terms of what he's done in his past, but sometimes, a personal connection, a smile, a kind word, in the 2-3 degrees of separation with family and friends of these 'friends' of your h's is as important as anything, in the here and now.

My ex, was always dismissive of the fact, that albeit a decade later, he and I attended the same urban high school, saying that because I didn't grow up in that city since birth, I could never call it my home. However, in the here and now, having been friends with those cousins and little sisters of those he professes to be connected with, has in turn, often mattered, as I considered, through the years whether to accept his threats as credible or not. Learning that it really didn't matter, because everything is connected, in one way or the other.

Does this hold, any familiarity to yourself? He, my ex, always forgets that I am a decade younger, and that, that decade difference, made all the world of difference, in that people will look the other way.

OR, as threatening, as you h can be, with you, trying to use his past as a fear tactic; if he's as nasty with you, does it stand to reason that he's lost respect with others around him, for the same temperament/disposition?

Glad you'll learn some self defense moves. My ex, never realized, that in college, I learned a few tips and tricks from a Marine officer candidate.