Panda, I would assume they do know what you are saying, and I suspect they know how words work, stigma and all that. Otherwise it would have been easier to say "oh, I didn't think of it like that" or whatever, rather than run to google and grab definition and a defence. A leaky defence since A already stated he indeed did mean it that way. Maybe A forgot what he said the first time or thought somehow it went unnoticed. Either way hard to discuss something with someone who will not stand by there own words.

Usually when people become that defensive after the fact, they do know but maybe they do not care, or do not care to acknowledge it. I would just leave it at you tried, sometimes people people dig their heals in just for the sake of it.

Babe.... well see.. who calls someone babe when haveing this type of conversation. Seemed there was a purpose in that. Maybe A just forgot about his #1 rule.

Just don't let it get to you too much. I believe they heard you, just don't want to admit that they get it, they did get it in other contexts so seems they can grasp the concept fine.

Hey one person said thanks and that they would think about their own language and words. And that is something, it made someone think about it feel good about that.