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Originally Posted by UnderTheRose
Thanks for that H&N --
I have been able most times to catch the physical sensation that begins just before the anger, and being able to notice that has been helpful in at least attempting to thwart that response. I can't do too much when the (very large) puppy and two small children are in my care as far as leaving to do any exercise.The dog would eat the house, the children would start hollering, but what I AM trying to do is walk into the kitchen, and start washing dishes, counters, anything... kind of calms me down, lets me turn the anger to tears if I need to, and at the same time I get a clean kitchen.
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There you go! Cleaning helps to sometimes, there is nothing wrong with crying. I feel like I haven't cried
enough considering all the hurt I've been through.
We don't have to leave to do any exercise, keep some weights around the house, run in place, do some pushups, situps, crunches, Pilates, dance moves whatever you find more suitable for the situation.
I usually do upper body exercises because that's where my anger likes to manifest itself (hence the hitting stuff) and save the leg work for the mornings.
What also helped me a lot was learning to be assertive, when somebody does something to make me angry I explain to them that they are being hurtful and how they are being hurtful. It usually thwarts their attempt to make my blood boil and stops them cold in their tracks. It seems like people get off on my angry episodes, they must be entertaining to those who make me angry.
