lots of good going on there granite

i kind of have a mixed reaction to part of what your t was saying ... with the choices and how you could have waited and breathed instead of calling etc ... i know when i'm badly triggered sometimes the safest choice is acting the way you did; and that if i don't things get a lot worse .... i know it would be preferable to do the waiting and that it is great we can learn that as an option and practice it ... maybe there are stages though? as in, building up to that stage she mentioned