I'm sorry you were abused. That shouldn't have happened.

The problem with families is they exist in a fixed state - google "family systems homeostasis" for more on this - and they resist when anyone tries to change. You have a fixed role and they won't let you move out of that. I'm sorry they aren't supporting you. I think you need to look elsewhere for support.

I have the same feelings about my family and wish they would die for the most part. I totally understand how hard this is and I'm sorry.