I’m going to bite the bullet here but as much as we wish someone would save us, this is just a fantasy or magical thinking to believe someone else has (all) the answers for us. No one has the answers for us. Not even your T.

What she can do is provide you with coping skills and strategies but ultimately, you have to do the work: be it trying to keep yourself safe, trying to ‘distract’ from the negative thoughts etc. It is hard work but Ts can’t do this for us. They can help, guide and support but ultimately, we have to do the work.

The change has to come from us. Use your T’s support (make her break strategies/a short-term plan into bite-size steps if needed/appropriate) but then, the ball is in your court.

Ts are like crutches, use them for the support but ultimately, you have got to do the walking.