What I mean is, the same action can be viewed differently depending on your mood. When I am feeling 'sassy' getting poked is funny...when I am feeling 'growly' getting poked is going to get a punch thrown.

I'll put it a different way. This is what happens when I start to get manic, I start to get hypersexual but I look at OTHER men, not my husband and I get very critical and sensitive (angry) to everything he does, even though he is probably not being any different than usual. That is my therapist's first real clue, my attitude.
When I start to go down, I get very clingy and everything he does that is teasing is amplified and hurts my feelings (weepy). Also a clue but easier to detect than the mania.

He is not being different...I am reacting differently to him depending on how my mood state is. Although to his credit he TRIES to accommodate the moods. After 27 years, its still tough cause even I can't see them coming most times.