Sam2, I'm afraid it is probably something that never goes away, just with luck and work becomes manageable. At least I hope it can be managed. Like HNS said.

Jane, thanks for the link, it looks good, I'm going to get it. And I agree with your T, I wouldn't try some of this stuff alone, I tried desensitizing myself last month to circumstances from a year ago and mostly just ramped up my anxiety level and made myself miserable.