Love your icons!!

I would like to know why I always seem to be in the "child" state and allow myself to be treated in this state by my H, boss, dominated by everyone basically?! I feel that my opinions don't matter. I find it really hard to stand up for myself. I always think I am a failure and that everyone else does life better (work/parenting etc). I think it all stems from being in that child state? Have just been told I am useless for so long I believe everyone.