Hmm. That sounds slightly harsh to me. Like the notion that it doesn't matter what other people think of us. Fact is that it DOES matter. Because people are social beings. Feeling accepted is important to us.

Sometimes therapists try for 'neutrality' I guess. I've heard that most often that is perceived as uncaring, though. Do you think your t is trying to be neutral, Rapunzel?

I don't know how well I'd go with a t doing that... But I guess it is hard... I don't think my t likes me particularly... There are aspects I haven't really shown him... I'm concerned about whether that will count as one of those irrevokable things, though...