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To me empathy is not just putting yourself in somebody else shoes, anybody can do that even people without empathy. I think its an unhealthy way to go about your business, and they can drag you down with them if you have too much empathy (like me).

Empathy is understanding and sharing that person's feelings. Its neutral for good or bad and has nothing to do with pity. Not only are you sensitive to others feelings but you also feel those feelings with them. When I see somebody who is homeless and struggling I don't pity them, but I feel how they feel and understand what it feels like to be without a safe place to home. Begging for food and having people turn you down etc. Its a cold world.

When we are angry, empathy, rationality etc goes out the window. This is true for everybody.