Okay, so now I'm friends with my ex boyfriend, we see each other at school, we're friendly, i don't know if I am breaching any boundaries that ex couples are supposed to have, but we speak to each other about everything (at least what i know of), we give each other a hug whenever we're down, we laugh, etc. But I do feel that he is keeping his distance, like we're close, but NOT that close, and I'm also doing the same thing. He assures me that he will be there for me when I'm down and he tells me to talk to him about anything at all. I am happy about that, I feel pretty much comfortable with it, and we're able to withstand each others' emotions.
But everything's just so wrong. I feel lonely, stressed (mostly about school), worried, despair... I'm worried I might get attached to him, and i tell him this, and he says don't worry about it for now. Cause both of us are going to be having major exams soon (like pre-university exams, so yeah it's a big deal) and he claims that we should help each other out and talk it out before it affects our exam mode, and eventually our going to uni. I totally agree, but I just can't seem to do it. I have no plans of getting back with him (now i'm not even sure if this is entirely true anymore, I've been so sure about this ever since he has someone else he likes who likes him back, but he also keeps saying he still has feelings for me, but I don't want to ruin the other girls' possible relationship with him)
He wants to be friends pretty badly (after blocking him on fb he sent me an email, etc) and he seems to be trying really hard to keep things cool between us. Recently I talked to him about how I've been feeling, (stress for exams and all) and I just said don't leave me alone and stuff and he sounded really down when he replied. He just said "Okay then so be it" Idk what's going through his mind, is he really trying to be friends and it feels like i'm not putting enough effort into being FRIENDS instead of lovers? I don't think we should get back together....but...sometimes I just want him around my life so badly and I just need him so badly it hurts. I guess I haven't moved on, or maybe I'm just being selfish by wanting him around.
Any thoughts or opinions would be much appreciated.
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