first of all everyone goes down a different path in life....and you could find someone to date if you put yourself out there...maybe try a dating website with pictures...its not weird to do that anymore...but working at a restaurant ive seen the ugliest obese girls with good looking men, and vice versa....im sure its just your low self estee making you feel that way, and if you're over weight hun, you can lose weight trust me, i used to be 250 lbs 5'5 felt so hopeless would pray and cry everynight, well one day i decidedd im sick of feeling like this no more....so i started drinking a lot of water, and eating 3 small things a day...well the weight the first 100 lbs melted off in 3 months....and motivate yourself, once you lose 5 lbs, it motivates you to lose more and more..and if not just see a therapist, medication helps a lot, it saved my life...drink a lot of water.....trust me you can find a man or girlfriend, theres someone out there for everyone, i was a virgin til i was 26 then i met the man of my dreams...when i least expected it..if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone trust me hun...god bless you...try to pray, it helped me