HI,
i'm sorry to hear that you are swamped with so many issues. it can be difficult at times to be concerned about your family.
just some words of advice:
we can not make someone change. for instance your sister will continue to be how she is unless she wants to change and your hubsand, the romantic thing, you might as well not even argue the point with him. men see things differnet than a woman. we think romance is a nice night out with your spouse and they see taking the trash out and making a living is romantic!!!??
remember we can only change ourselves. maybe look at some poistive qualites about your spouse and sister and see if that will not help.
gwen