Thanks Freewilled and IndieVisible for the messages

Although, Indievisible, I'm not entirely sure how helpful the first part of your reply is, casually speculating on how I might be borderline! I don't mind (and incidentally, I myself thought I was maybe borderline until several different mental health professionals said no, definitely not! I have ptsd and attachment issues, but there we are...) but some other people might find that a bit upsetting, no? But I do see where you're coming from.