I was unsure about the statement about those who feel good about their mothers too. I really did have a fantastic mother, so I have no need for my T to serve that role, but that does in no way mean I don't respect or on some level understand others' needs for that kind of relationship. And it isn't a matter of not being in touch with that need either (which might conversly be hard for someone who does have that need to understand?). We all come from different places in our lives and have very unique needs.