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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
I give a lot of merit to the idea of manipulative behavior but at the same time I feell there is a very fine line between what manipulative behavior a bpd person does and what the rest of the world does. I'm sorry but I just feel like 99% of society is manipulative of other people period.
That being said I do realize this is a real aspect of the disorder, just not so simple to say every manipulative action you take is due to your bpd, it's hard to define IMHO.
While thinking about my own particular behaviors though of late and for various reasons that have surfaced recently I've made an inner commitment to take time to really think about the motives behind what I say and do and do everything in my power to say and do what I mean rather than not. Idk if this makes sense but in my tiny brain it does.
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I agree. Everyone manipulates whether they are aware of it or not. The real question here should be how is it different from others and why does a BPD do it. I think for the most part BPD manipulates for attention almost like a NPD except for a different reason. A BPD may feel the need for reassurance or feeling loved, where as the NPD does it for admiration, or to make themselves look good. A NON may do it also for the same reasons or for different reasons. The reasons I believe are the keys and the frequencies and pattern. They will be different thru out the Cluster B and for NONs. I think there will be more distinct patterns for cluster B's then for NONs and also different reasons. So I really think the question should by why and how it differs that we should be talking about. And the key difference between cluster B's and nons will be we have a greater pattern with usually the same few reasons and greater frequencies and even predictable if you know what to look for.