When my T and I discussed hugging, he told me that he will never offer a hug, even though he knows that I would likely be open to one. There are a variety of reasons for that. One is that I need to learn that it's okay to ask for what I want from other people and not expect them to read my mind and know what I want. Another is that he would never want me to feel any pressure to hug him and an offer might feel like pressure. A third is that offering might be more about his needs than mine.