Forgiveness for me came towards my father came when I realized that my anger was eating away at me. That I was the one that was suffering - still. Then a couple of years ago, my Dad apoligized out of the blue. I'm 51 and he was 84. He died a couple of years later. He wasn't sick or anything at the time of the apology. But looking at him at that timeI realized that he was not the great big giant that I had always thought.