Is that true? well son is moving out - very good for him - shows that he has matured. I'm alone - totally now... I have one close friend... but she is in FL and I've decided that I don't want to be friends anymore. I play a very small part in her life - too much energy extended to keep the friendship going. My son who I've had a pretty good relationship with, said tonight that he most likely won't have time in the future for me - besides "what would we do" as he puts it.

So the abusers in my life have most definetly won. The person (me) who said "I will never give up EVER" has given up. There isn't ANYTHING that anyone could ever do anymore that would hurt me - it's all been done. So am I the ultimate winner - is the goal to get to the place where no one can hurt you because you are unhurtable?

I said to T today that the people in my life have always been big "blips" on the screen to me but I am but a very small "blip" on their screen. I've always asked how can I make this person feel better, what can I do to help make their life easier. But not so with me.

The end result of abuse is to be alone - the ultimate "win" by the abuser.