
Sep 21, 2013, 02:46 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2013
Location: The North.
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Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung
Hi, neutrino. Seeking reassurance is a bad thing, because it only ends-up strengthening the distorted beliefs, worries, fears, etc. It would serve you better to work on your anxiety, and to better distract yourself. Think of it like me telling you there's cake on the table - your favorite cake - and that you can't go near it, but that's it's there. Now imagine you keep asking me over and over if you can have the cake, checking to see if I changed my mind; in this case, all you're doing is constantly making that cake more prominent in your mind, making you want that cake even more. You'd be far better off to just forget the cake, and be done with it.  I'm not saying you want whatever bad things that are going on in your mind, but rather I'm just showing you that the more you focus on something, the more prominent it becomes.
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That makes sense. Too bad it's so damn difficult not asking for reassurance.
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