Bee:

My fiance's mother hates me too and I did nothing to her. When we first started dating she told him that if we continued she would disown him (she hasn't yet, but has said some terrible things). Well we've been together for almost 2 years now and are wedding date is 10/23/04. The worse part is my fiance has 2 children (12 & 10) and they both know how much she dislikes me and it hurts them to hear her put me down. She has made it clear that when I'm married to him she will no longer watch the children. My fiance is a firefighter, so she helps watch the kids when he's working. She also stated that she won't be at our wedding. It's come to the point that my fiance don't care about her opinion. Don't get me wrong it's taken him a long time to say that, but he has to be happy with HIS life. He understands how I feel and basically I don't attend any family things and I'm ok with that. Your fiance seems a little like mine... always trying to please the mother. Hopefully, he will come to the same decision that my fiance did. It's tough dealing with it though! Hang in there!