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I think it's a little quick/extreme to suggest leaving this therapist going on so little information. Often times we (people) *perceive* 'anger' when that is not what is being expressed. And especially if we already think we deserve punishment in the first place. And if there is anger, sometimes that can be worked out.
I think the important thing is to share the perception with the therapist and work from there. It has happened so so many times on this forum that what someone *thought* their therapist thought of them, how they were acting towards them, after discussion and time, turned out not to be the case.
Butterflying, you feel you need to be punished, and this is so sad. I think this is coloring your response to your therapist, and really needs to be shared with him. You don't deserve to be punished, and I doubt this is his intent. I get the impression, from the little information I have, that at least in part he is trying to help and protect you. Maybe he was disappointed (maybe not) and that can be very hard to take in, especially from our therapists. I'm sure you've talked about it before, but it sounds like asking him why he doesn't think it's good for you to text merits another discussion. And when you do, how you two can work it out without you feeling so terrible.
How we relate to/respond to our therapists can reflect how we function in relationships in our day to day lives and it can be so helpful to work it out in the safety of therapy. It sounds like you don't feel very safe with him at the moment, though --I hope you regain this and can be reassured that you *don't* deserve punishment, you deserve caring, from your therapist and others.
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