Thank Mouse for your explanation of what a therapist can and can not do. I too had a very abusive mother and it was dangerous for me to have those natural children's needs. I had to stop myself from having them. Now, after 30 years of off again, on again therapy ( mostly off again) I am starting to want those things. I am 62 years old and I am embarrassed to feel this way toward my younger therapist. The adult me knows that she can't be my mother but this little child inside me wants her to do things that mothers do. Like hold me, touch my face and tell me everything is going to be OK. This is just starting to happen to me and I am going through a lot of constant anxiety over it. I'm on a roller coaster that I think is obsession. I want to go back to the therapist I use to have so she doesn't know this is happening to me and I am terrified to tell her. I'm pretty sure I can't tell her and that I will only be able to say that I am having some thoughts that I can't tell her about. I think I am the last one to know that I am attached to her and she knows that I have been working on trying to allow my little girl to have her say. So she probably has a good idea what is going on with me.