Malcontent Hero, I feel much of what you do, as well. At best I preferred self-employment, but then I lacked control over some critical aspects, and I quit that as I have every job I've ever had.

StrongerMan, have you ever looked into intentional communities seriously, and considered becoming part of one? I knew someone who did that, and there is quite a network of people interested in such things. I've looked into it myself. Here's an important starting link for anyone interested in such things:

Intentional Communities - ecovillages, communes, cohousing, coops