Regardless of whether one believes cheating to be wrong 100% of the time or justifiable in certain situations, I'm sorry that you are going through this. I disagree with the above posts and think that it may actually be helpful if you could put some kind of name to your lover's problems. If they fit into a particular diagnosis, it might enable you to do some research to help understand the situation better. It could be that he is depressed and anxious over the affair, or there could be other even more serious issues to deal with. If you were happy, you probably would not cheat, and you would not be reaching out here. In addition, you may not have "chosen" someone who appears to have some complicated issues....just think about what is good for yourself and your long-term emotional health and that of your two children.
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