Follow up:

I have not been able to bring myself to contact my mom since my first post. She called at Christmas but I avoided that call. I'm avoiding my whole family. We are a very dysfunctional family to begin with but I have never really realized how bad we were until the conversation with my mom regarding my arm lesion. It was a true moment of clarity when my denial system was shattered and I saw things as they truly were.

I'm not mad ( maybe a little ). I don't miss the phone calls and I don't care if I ever talk to her again ( won't happen because I have kids ). Don't know what to do. Thank God I live far away from her--it makes cutting off contact so much easier.

Can one really divorce their mother?