Hun, I know what you're saying. I've heard it all before and I've lived through it all before. I learned some harsh lessons last time.

The big problem is that she won't back off! She flat refuses to listen to my explanations and my intentions. There's no moving her! She's taken her stance and don't confuse her with the facts. She's got all of us, John, Jerry and I by the short hairs where we're all afraid to make any kind of a move.

I know her actions are from fear and insecurity. I know she's angry and defensive. She's so focused on "protecting" herself and her kids that she won't listen to reason. But I also know that she won't break the cycle. She's mean and vindictive. I've seen her at work. I could litteraly "kiss her ***" and she may give in for a time or two, but she'd get it in her head that I had done something wrong and we'd be back to square one. Am I supposed to let her play her power games with me, my son, my husband but primarily with the kids until Hell freezes over? I don't think so!

Like I've said before, I don't plan to do anything right this minute. I've got some pretty tough days ahead of me and I plan to get through them with as much peace and outside distractions as I can. When my mind is clearer, then I'll see what my options are. But in the meantime, I will NOT allow her to pull that same crap again! Not in front of my house and not to my grandkids!




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>