Thank you for the thoughtful replies. I'm not sure what todo at this point. Part of me says leave and part says stay. I have already done a DBT class. Now he says we aren't doing DBT but he is using parts of it. I feel like he has a lot of rules like I have to have an agenda ready, talking about the past is not really ok, if I binge or self harm we have to do a chain analysis where we analyze it step by step, I'm not supposed to use swear words, if I did text even if it is suicidal thoughts, I have to text what I've done to help myself first, or he won't answer, I cannot play with something or fidget while we talk, I need to notice when time is up and be ready to leave--if he goes over he mentions it and expects me to tell him he is flexible, I'm not supposed to be late, but if he is I'm supposed to understand....all these "rules" are supposed to be remembered and followed. If I don't remember it's therapy interfering behavior. But he is offended if I say it doesn't feel like I'm allowed to make mistakes.