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Hello everyone. This might be a dumb question...I am wondering of others with BPD have the same experiences with lying? I cannot lie. (not that its a bad thing but sometimes it sure is inconvenient when a little white llie would be useful for something dumb so people wouldnt be hurt by it, example: how does my haircut look? Does this outfit make me look like I am a tramp, or fat. )
I have never been able to lie and when I have tried in the past I was absolutely horrible at it, so lying never worked because the person always knew. This is especially true when I am being asked questions and especially if it is a direct question.
I heard about people with BPD not being able to lie when I had a meeting about mental illness at my place of employment . BPD and DBT therapy was mostly the main topic. The speaker stated, "an interesting fact is that most people with BPD cant lie and especially if it is a direct question." I do not know where the speaker got the information, but I found it interesting because I can't lie.
The stupid part about it because of the instability with my emotions, moods, and with life, people have accused me of lying when I was not. (I am sure that you have heard that saying that people with BPD will lie and do things just to get attention and whatnot.) I get frustrated, angry, and defensive when that happens, and this does not help the situation. People tend to say if your not lying why are you so defensive. I can tell them until I am blue in the face that I am not lying and it doesn't matter. I have also had to prove that I wasn't lying.
I am wondering if others have had some experience with this and how do you cope and deal with it? I would like to hear some of your stories about it, if anyone has any.
Thanks much!
Ambivalent Amy
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