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It has taken me years to be able to grit my teeth and tell someone they look good in that outfit when they do not. I am 46 and through out my life people have called me a *****, or ice queen because I give them my direct opinion and remember it is your opinion when telling some one their hair cut sucks. It is learning to start thinking about the impact on the other persons feelings your statement makes. That never dawned on me because I have never been able to feel empathy, sympathy or pity except for animals. Now I just fake it for social convention.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
Last edited by FooZe; Sep 29, 2013 at 01:53 PM.
Reason: Bleeped a cussword. Please don't go around the cuss filter.
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