Pammie -- This isn't likely to help you with your situation, but an old wound just came bubbling to my mind -- something my mom said to me some 40 years ago!

I'd had an auto accident that almost killed me. I rolled a car that landed on its roof, then righted itself in the snow. A passerby stopped, and his first words were a stunned, "You're alive?! I didn't expect to see anyone getting out of that car."

A state trooper drove me to a Thruway toll station to call my mom to come get me. (Way before cells phones.) My mom's first words, "What did you do to that car?" which was brand new.

Not, are you okay? I'd gotten more care and concern from a complete stranger. These wounds cut deep -- but things can get better -- in time.

I think you are doing a fabulous job of managing this.