You get out as safely as possible. To me that means don't tip your hand as to what you are doing.

If you have time, establish your own credit and write letters to joint creditors saying you will no longer be responsible for his debt. Keep copies of everything.

Contact a local Women's Resource Center to End Domestic Violence - Atlanta, GA for an escape plan for you and your children.

Don't fault yourself ... and I would not file a restraining order, as this makes them even angrier and police are rarely around right when you need them.

Learn how and clear your computer's history and cache automatically every few minutes and purposely when you close your browser and in between, to limit his stalking you online.