As a way to keep my ex out of our lives I have had to stay leagally married to him. It is a very complicated situation. I left him in 2004 and yet am still married

He did get my new address from the courts. He did show up ananounced and I have since moved and have managed to avoid court since but in no way is it easy to do. It very much depends on the abusive spouce and how much they are willing to put into the courts. I have been dragged to court by my ex three times. But he doesnt follow through and that is my only saving grace.