I lived with my ex whom i had a son by, he's 22 now. I found my partner, his dad, to be soo controlling and was smothered i had to leave. He treated me so bad i had no choice but to leave, and am glad i did. I sometimes feel proud of people like you that can and isn't afraid of speaking their minds, as i am not good at it and fear vindication, as i've had a few relationships with female friends who were very vindictive. I am proud you can stick up for yourself, i'm not lik that but wish i could be more aggressive sometimes.