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Sep 23, 2013, 11:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung
How do you deal with such people when you're angry?
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I often don't if I can't make sense, because then I am out of control. If I am out of control, I am not clear, I fail to make a point, and then there is no sense in engagement.
There is also a judgement to be made about whether it's a battle worth fighting at all. Wasted energy and all that.
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How do you not stand your ground and make it clear they were out-of-order? I've been brought up to stand my ground and act accordingly. I really, really don't like people that go around trying to 1-up others, for their own sick pleasure; it makes me angry. Some people may say I'm sometimes too defensive or blunt, but you know what? So be it. I have respect for my fellow man (the decent ones, anyway) so yeh, I am defensive at times, and I can be blunt, or make it clear when someone has been offensive. I know how I don't want to be treated, and it's how I wouldn't treat others. Furthermore, what about those people who're so busy feeling sorry for themselves, that they see it fit to go around making other people feel like crap, just to give themselves a boost? What do you do about them?
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...Again, you pick your battles.
If you stand up against every little pissant, you have no energy to stand against the people/things/causes that might actually be essential to speak/act against.
We become desensitized to that which we see too often.
That is: If you live your entire life on a soapbox, your words start to loose their intensity, and if you stand at every remark, you might as well never sit down, so it no longer has an effect.
You need to discern what really matters, and aim for that.
Some people just suck.
And unfourtunately, they will slide along in life.
They may "get what's coming to them"... or they may not.
It's obviously just my opinion, but life isn't really fair in that way- some people have a map to the X, some don't.
You can have advantages or not- you have power to change some things, some things you don't.
One of those things you can change though- is how often you share your opinion and exercise protest or force of any kind.
Silence is just as powerful as sound [observation comes in a very close second], but few people believe this and fewer people actually exercise either weapon.
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I hate saying this kind of crap - I was just angry, earlier. I usually avoid talking about this stuff, because I don't want to seem like a knuckle-dragger, or unwillingly encouraging something. I swear, when a man shows the slightest bit of physical or intellectual strength, it seems to set off some kind of localized Challenge Me alarm...
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I think there are a few important things to consider here:
There are differences between "challenges" and "fights".
Differences between simply being angry about something, and about feeling something is an injustice.
Differences between physical and intellectual strength.
Also, you can always choose to simply not react.
You do not have to respond to a challenge OR a fight in a way that the person approaching you wants you to, you have more than one option.
It may be important to assess what is important to respond to in terms of what you want to "stand for", that is- challenge-, what you want to fight or brawl or argue about... and what might just not be worth it.
It may help?
Just ideas.
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