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Old Sep 24, 2013, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by lido78 View Post
I'm just curious as to how often folks communicate with a significant other when traveling. I know that there is no "right" answer other than what works for the couple, but I'm a bit torn on how it should be handled when the individuals do not agree on the frequency or method of communicating.

My boyfriend is traveling overseas for two weeks. It's mostly a business trip, but it will include a significant amount of time with his family. We have communicated only by way of fairly brief texts or Facebook messages every two days or so but, to be honest, I'm a bit bummed to have not had a call. He said he'd get a phone card and call at some point, but we're half way into the trip so it almost doesn't really matter too much at this point.

Given the time difference and the fact that he'll be with his family for most of the trip, I'm not mad or anything...just kind of bummed. From my perspective, I would have found about 10 minutes of quiet time to call by now...but, that's just me. When he's with his family, he's much more absorbed in spending time with them since they only see each other about once a year. So, I do get his perspective but it doesn't make me any less bummed.

It was a very last minute decision to travel, so we realy didn't have time to talk about it before he left and I do not want to bring it up while he's there. I may not even bring it up when he's back but would like to find a better compromise for the next time one of us is away.
Very understandable why you're upset about this. Why not just ask him if he would call and without making him feel like he's done anything less than your expectations, let him know you need to hear his voice. put it on terms that will leave it as what you'd like to have not something that hasn't happened. As in maybe make it so he understands that at this point you're realizing how much hearing from him more often and hearing his voice really means. It should work if you make him feel more significant and important to you. Try not to make it sound desperate but matter-of-fact and it will be win win.. he'll get a boost knowing how much you're thinking/needing him and you'll likely get more contact from him!

I don't know how often is right, that's something that would be between you and him.
Thanks for this!
lido78