I just wanted to thank you all for comments and honesty. It's so helpful to me because it helps me understand my husband. Last weekend I got a two birthday cards with notes from three different 'names'. i said, Oh, I love Ochoman, and then quickly asked him, are you ottoman. He quickly shook his head no, then I said..but he can hear me right..he quickly nodded yes. And that was it. He still carries on as if nothing odd is happening. So these little glimpses are all I have to go on. And i feel I understand and act more appropriately, hearing from all of you. Love and blessings to you.