1. you don't have to tell your parents/friends/siblings about your indiscretion. try writing it all down and then burn it......

2. if your husband is willing, and he sounds concerned, try couples counseling to go along with your individual therapy. it could be that only a few sessions could get things straight with you.

3. we're all too hard on ourselves. it's a natural reaction to life.
make a list of what you do well and what you think is going wrong. see how it balances out......

good luck, pat