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Originally Posted by lido78
Yes, the feeling of being valued is the part that I cannot seem to communicate.
So, at this point, it's actually been about four days since I've even gotten a text/e-mail, although he has liked things that I've posted on FB. It's just really weird to me. I feel kind of frozen out...I would have hoped he'd share a bit of his trip with me either over the phone or by more personal message but, so for, nothing like that. I just really hope that he's just wrapped up and having a great time and that things will be back to normal when he's back next week.
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That's the thing about the need to feel 'valued'. It's actually my number one need, I've discovered. And it's the most ambiguous of needs to articulate that is out there from any needs based list.
It takes a combination of other needs to be met, to feel the valued need is fulfilled.
Articulating needs, isn't about just accepting that this is the way the other person is, but it's not abnormal, to say, listen, I have a need that needs to be met, for me to feel that I am a priority.
When this need wasn't met, it left you feeling 'frozen out.' You've expressed wanting to feel included, just a little over the phone or a personal message. If he can 'like' a fb status, he can just as easily send a PM through fb. That's just my opinion.
Will things, after this trip, truly go back to 'normal', upon his return? This is the type of event, in a relationship, that sounds like it could potentially breed resentment. It's the type of thing, that can leave a person vulnerable.
