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Originally Posted by lido78
Ah...very good point, and I will have to try this the next time he goes away. I suppose that I'm a bit scared to put it the way you've suggested because (1) I'm not 100% comfortable being vulnerable this way and (2) if I do put it this way and he still does not communicate, then it will seem even more as if he doesn't care about my feelings. I guess that neither one is a good reason to not give it a try though, so I'm gonna have to put on my big girl panties and step up on my side of the plate.
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I'm curious, about 'seem even more as if he doesn't care about my feelings.' ?
Takes two to communicate in a relationship. Does this, statement, mean, that already, before this trip, you've felt this way?
Stating specific needs, need not be stated in an emotional manner. I agree, stated matter-of-fact. I need this, where can you meet me, with this? It's about being in touch with what it is that you need, to you own very core, to be able to express. Not wish-washy, not emotive styled, just frankly honest about what it is that you need, in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled with your relationship.
From my own experience, in personal relationship communication, in a matter of fact way, it's been appreciated and expressed as appreciation for honesty.